Rule 9: Assume that the person you’re listening to might know something you don’t.

Use the Rogerian Method of listening (and criticizing). Named after psychotherapist Carl Rogers.

  • Listen to the other person (obvious). Do so with great concentration and without distractions. Place all devices down when having an important discussion.
  • Summarize their message. Do this not so that you can shoot it down with a counter-argument. Rather do this with an open-mind. Be accepting of a different position. Comes to a common understanding.
  • After this, pursue the truth. Advance the conversation to uncomfortable places. Keep this in mind when dealing with tough conversations. All parties can retreat back into safety the moment a conversation becomes uncomfortable.

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